Makeup artistry, like any job, has its share of professional rivalry. I can appreciate healthy competitive spirit where the intent is to push ourselves towards higher goals. But when competition turns toxic, you cross the line into deceit, sabotage and plain old back-stabbing.
Healthy rivalry between respecting individuals is a necessary feature of life. It supports proper ambition; helps develop a full growth of one’s capacities; and in competitive situations, allows us to strive and express ourselves freely. We can’t escape the existence of rivalry any more than we can control other people’s actions or hidden agendas. We can, however, learn to steer clear of unhealthy rivalry by recognizing the toxic behavior that breeds it. Most importantly, we need to recognize when we are contributing to it.
Unfortunately, we can’t escape the existence of unhealthy rivalry any more than we can control other people’s actions or agendas. We can, however, learn to steer clear of unhealthy rivalry by recognizing the toxic behavior that breeds it.
Most importantly, we need to recognize when WE are contributing to it.
Have you ever found yourself…
- Discrediting a peer to others (including potential clients) because you feel he/she poses a threat to you?
- Being sarcastic or dismissive to a peer during conversations where they are being admired by others?
- Getting stressed out when a peer receives public recognition for their accomplishments?
- Aggravated and jealous about projects a peer is involved in or ones they have secured in the future?
If you answered yes to any of the above, you need to address this behavior as soon as possible. There is a fine line between healthy and unhealthy competition.
If you are actively doing things to hijack someone else’s career, there are larger issues at play and it’s gone beyond just being ambitious. You need to realize that sabotaging someone else to secure your success proves that you excel at one thing – deceit. And that deceit almost always creates disastrous repercussions (don’t ever forget about karma, because it’s going to remember you).
Funny thing, most people don’t even realize their unhealthy behavior…until it becomes toxic enough for others to point out. If it gets that far, then you need to clean up your act immediately and do some serious damage control.
This behavior generally stems from people’s insecurities and lack of faith in themselves. People who suffer from low self-esteem are the most susceptible. We are all a victim of self-doubt at times, it’s called being human. When you feel the insecurity creeping in, get a pen and paper and write down those fears on one side. On the other side, write reasons why those insecurities are unfounded and not true. The first person you need to convince about your worthiness…is yourself.
On the other hand, there is a minority who suffer from a very real mental illness which can only be treated with professional intervention – Narcissistic personality disorder. They have an inflated sense of self-importance, an extreme preoccupation with themselves and feel justified in doing rather ruthless things to get what they want.
NOTE: Until they are treated, these are the people you smile at …and quickly walk away from.
The most important thing to remember is that work is just a part of life, not life itself. But when you allow unhealthy rivalry and dishonest behavior into your work life, it will eventually spill into your personal life.
Now, can I get a Karma Check with those fries, please?
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